02 February 2012

Baby #3 | The details

Thank you so much for all of the well wishes about our amazing news! We are over-the-moon excited for this little peanut to come into the world and complete our family. I apologize for leaving you hanging with no details in my last post, but I thought they deserved a post of their own.

So without further ado...

Surprise!
Yes, I'm sure it's hard to believe, but this baby was quite a little surprise for us. After my loss in October, we did get the green light to try again right away if we were ready. And as most people that experience a loss know, you have an overwhelming need to become pregnant again right away. So try, we did. And let me just tell you... we should have waited a cycle. To keep this as TMI-less as possible, I really didn't bleed much with the miscarriage. It was 3 days of super light bleeding and that was it. No cramping or anything. My doc followed my beta levels back to zero, which took a week, and that was that. Well my first period came right on time and it. was. terrible. I almost feel like that was the rest of the miscarriage. I was bent over in pain. Cramping was something awful, and my hormones were so crazy. Again, it was terrible.

On one hand, I was sad I wasn't pregnant again right away, but on the other, I was relieved that everything was behind me and felt like we could finally move on from it. We tried again the following cycle for an August baby, with no luck. I was having severe pain on my lower left side since the miscarriage, so that, combined with the fact that a September baby clearly meant no annual OBX trip with my family {which we love and had already started paying for} we decided to take a cycle off. It was good for us. No stress over the holiday's. I could get checked out and then we would start fresh in the new year.

Ha!

So, what's wrong with me?
Well let me just start by saying that when I called my OB about my pain, she said it sounded like I had cysts or fibroids and that she wanted me to come in for an ultrasound right away. I took the week between Christmas and New Year's to schedule all my appointments. During that week, I had 2 ultrasounds and an appointment with my OB. Of course the ultrasound tech couldn't tell me anything, and frankly, I didn't even ask. So I waited until that Friday morning for my appointment with my OB to ask all my questions. Of course {and I totally knew this would happen} they didn't have my ultrasound results by the time of my appointment, but my doc said that she didn't feel any large cysts and that she would call if she saw something on my ultrasound. When I didn't hear anything by the end of the day Friday, I thought I was in the clear.

On Tuesday morning, January 3rd, I got a call from my doctor at 8am. I missed the call {of course!} and I was so scared. With my OB's office, you have to call and leave a message, and then they call you back. I waited an hour {which isn't a long time, but it's an eternity when you're waiting for bad news} for my doc to call me back. When she finally did, she said that they found cysts on my left ovary, which was clearly causing the pain. I immediately asked her if it would affect TTC and she said no. Whew. Okay, I can handle that.

3 days later? I found out I was pregnant.

Wait, what? But it was a break cycle.
Yeah, I know right. And we can't seem to plan a damn thing with this baby, so we're just going with it. I'm not quite sure how you can try for 2 months with nothing to show for it, take a break, and BAM. Pregnant. Yeah, I'm not sure how that happens, but I am so thankful for it.

I decided to chart this cycle. I never charted before because I was afraid it would just stress me out big time. But since our loss, I had no idea if I was even ovulating anymore. Or when that was even occurring. I thought, well why not chart on a break cycle just to see if everything is back to normal, right? Right! And charting was fun, actually. And so easy. Not sure why I didn't do it before. {For those that don't know what charting is, you just take your temperature every morning and then add it to your chart on a site called Fertility Friend... that's it, the site does all the work for you.}

And if anyone is interested, this is my "We officially suck at trying to avoid BFP chart!"

When we found out...
Okay so, my chart was the reason I tested. When your temperature stays above the red coverline, there's a good chance that you're pregnant. When I got a huge temp rise at 10dpo, I was all "Hmmm, maybe. But how!?!" then when it was up again at 11dpo, I caved and tested. It was bright and early on Friday, January 6th and this is what I saw...I used the cheap Wondfo test first and just sat it on the bathroom counter and started brushing my teeth, when I looked down a few minutes later, I could clearly see a faint second line. I started shaking. I had some "real" tests under the sink {i.e. real expensive} so when I saw that the cheapie was positive, I needed more confirmation. I used the FRER and the digital and I was so surprised at what I saw.

Pregnant.

I was shocked. And happy. And excited. And nervous. And in love. And scared out of my mind. But mostly happy =) Bob came downstairs just as the digital popped up "Pregnant" and I just stood there in the bathroom. He said "What!?! What's wrong?" and I just pointed to the tests. Of course he was just as shocked as I was then we hugged, kissed and spent the rest of the morning saying "I can't believe it!" while getting ready for work.

Telling people.
On our drive to work we talked about how and when we would share the news with our families. He wanted to wait. And I couldn't. I wouldn't. I guess I'm the opposite of most people that have experienced a loss. Our families were amazing through everything. They cried with us. They cheered us on. They were routing for us. They were there when we needed them.

And I needed them again.

I was so scared this time and I needed them to be excited for us and help us stay positive. And I almost felt like they had a right to know now too, in some way. I feel like they experienced the loss with us and they deserved to be happy for us again! If, God forbid, we lost this baby too, we would need them again, if not more this time.

I didn't want to waste any more time being anything but excited about this baby. And that was that.

I didn't do anything fun or exciting this time, I walked in, showed my mom the cell phone picture of the tests from that morning and she screamed and cried tears of joy while my dad was there to give us a big hug. I shared the news with my sisters that day too, who were so happy and excited for us. A few days later when we saw them in person, we shared the news with Bob's family and they, of course, had the same reaction.

It was out there. It was real now. And we were so damn happy about it.

Beta drama mama.
Because I found out I was pregnant on a Friday morning, I had to wait until Monday to have my first beta drawn. I just couldn't wait for the confirmation that this was really happening, and I hoped and prayed for good, healthy numbers.

I went in bright and early on Monday morning for my first draw. I've done this before and knew that I wouldn't get my results back until Tuesday morning, so I waited. On Tuesday afteroon, I still hadn't heard from my nurse, so I called them. She said that the results were still listed as "pending" in the lab database and that I should keep my Wednesday morning appointment for my 48 hour blood draw {to ensure my numbers were doubling.}

I went in on Wednesday morning, not even knowing my results from Monday. So frustrating. On Wednesday afternoon, my nurse called me and the first words out of her mouth were "So, I don't have good news for you..."

Oh, I'm sorry nurse, can you please excuse me while I pick my heart up off the floor?

Then she continues with... "the lab lost your betas from Monday."

What. the. eff? Nurse, please do not start a sentence that way to a girl that just experienced a loss. I thought I was miscarrying again! I kinda figured something happened to my results when I haven't heard back about them in 3 damn days. Sheesh, what a headache!

On Thursday morning, she finally called with good news. My results from the second draw on Wednesday morning were 593 with a progesterone level of 42. WOOT, I'M REALLY PREGNANT!

I went back Friday morning and requested the results to be run STAT. It was MLK Jr. weekend and I refused to wait until Tuesday to see if this pregnancy was viable. Once I got to the lab, I was informed that they don't do STAT bloodwork {ahem, of course they don't} and that I would have to go to the hospital to have it done. I called work to let them know I'd be late and then called my husband.

The first words out of my mouth were "what's the quickest way to the hospital?" OOPS. Sorry honey... now I'm just like that nurse. I'm pretty sure, in that moment, Bob wanted to stab me for scarring him half to death.

I made my way over to the hospital, had my blood drawn at 8am, went to work and my nurse called me at 10am with GREAT news... my numbers more than doubled to a beautiful 1,444 in 48 hours.

This was really happening.

So, when's this baby coming?
I'm due on September 16, 2012, which is Bob's 32nd birthday. =) What a great due date to have! But with my medical history and my rather large monster babies, my doctor won't let me go past 39 weeks. That means this baby will be here on or before September 9th, 2012. {But maybe the 10th though, since the 9th is a Sunday.}

I'm almost 8 weeks pregnant, and let me tell ya... it was so hard for me to wait this long to tell you. But after my loss, I wanted to wait until after my first ultrasound to really share the news. Here's my little peanut again...He/she had a beautiful heartbeat of 148bpm, which we got to see and hear on Monday. I started crying the second I heard it. Even after 3 babies, I still cry. It's the most beautiful sound in the world.

Team Green
When I was pregnant with Brynn I really wanted to wait until birth to find out the sex of the baby. Bob acted as if that wasn't even an option. After discussing it and knowing that we 100% wanted 3 kids, we made a deal. We'd find out with #2 again, like we did with Carter, but regardless of the sex of baby #2, we'd be waiting with #3.

He agreed and here we are. Yes, yes, we plan to wait to find out what we're having. And I'm so freaking excited about it. I just hope we can do it! {I think I can, I think I can...} We really need nothing for this baby, just a few little things, and we already have 2 names picked out, so why the hell not!?!

Okay, so I think that's all for now {and I know it's a lot, sorry!} A few of you requested belly pics, and I plan to post them soon, I promise {for my new readers I get really huge when I'm pregnant} and I also plan to talk about the names we like, Carter & Brynn's reaction, what we think we're having, our favorite baby things, and stuff like that.

Again, thank you so much for all the well wishes! I am so glad that you guys now know and can share in our good news... it makes my heart happy =)

Oh, and for those that are wondering... we're moving up our trip to OBX. ;)

47 comments:

MommaM said...

What wonderful news!!!! Congratulations! I wish you nine months of smooth sailing. :-D

molly said...

I'm so glad you can finally spill all the details and really celebrate this new life!

And yay for team green! I think I would choose that too if we ever have a third baby!

Amanda said...

So happy for you. I'm actually sitting in my cubicle crying for you right now. Tears of joy though :)

Melissa @ Filling Our Bucket said...

So exciting!! Congratulations and here is to a perfect and healthy pregnancy!!

I was charting to avoid when I got pregnant. The first 2 months were perfect, but that 3 month, we failed too. ;)

J-Berg said...

Yay, that is such wonderful news!

I vote for a Sept. 10th birthday. That's my birthday, I'll galdly share.

I cannot believe you're going team green. I don't think I could wait that long! You go girl!

Audrey said...

I've been waiting for this post!!! Congrats to you!

Karen said...

Congratulations! I hope you have an easy and healthy pregnancy :)

Heather said...

again - congrats and thanks for sharing the story!
i'm so excited for you and to follow your pregnancy on here! yay!

JoAnna said...

Congrats! Team green is so amazing!

Tessa said...

I'm so excited for you!!

Amber and Scott said...

So thrilled for you and your Virgo baby! My husband's birthday is 9/11 so I am a huge fan of other September babies (who rule!). Yay! :D

bobbers119 said...

Thanks for the update! My 2nd daughter was born 5 days early which just happened to be on her DADDY"S BIRTHDAY!........ It was a great gift for him! Well wishes sent your way! Cant wait to hear more about your growning family!!! I would love more kiddos but the hubby says no more..... oh and good luck with staying team green. I know i would struggle with not know but also feel that it would be amazing to hear its a boy or its a girl once the little one arrives. Would be such a special moment!

Erica said...

Have that Baby on the 9th of September....that's my birthday! :) Woohoo for a Virgo baby!

So happy for you and your family.

Andrea said...

You deserve every bit of happiness with the one. I am SO happy for you guys!

Bethany said...

congrats!! so much fun!

Tara said...

im SO SO Happy for you! I love when angel mommas like myself get their happy ending! & so soon for you! congraTS congrats congrats! :)

Jill @BabyRabies said...

YAY!!!!! SO SO HAPPY FOR YOU! And yay Team Green! That's our plan for #3, too. Eeek! ::jumping up and down with joy for you::

Denise said...

Congrats again Jenni! I started following your blog back when you were pregnant with Brynn and can't wait to hear about this pregnancy. I'm pregnant myself and would love to be on team green as well, but my husband really wants to find out when we can. I just don't know if I can hold out! Good luck!!

kacy said...

i have no idea what anything in this post means except for the picture of the test that says "pregnant" and the ultra sound pic that says "baby"...yayyyyy for baby!

Mama G @ Growing Up Geeky said...

Yay for September babies!!

Amanda said...

Congrats!!!! Can't wait to read along with your pregnancy!

Natalie said...

I'm SO happy for you! What fantastic news! My Brynn was due on September 16, 2010 (though she's a stubborn one and didn't come until September 30th!!) We find out if baby #2 is a boy or girl in one week and I can.not.wait! :)

Real Housewife said...

Congrats again Jenni! I didn't find out with Eva (who is about 3 weeks older than Brynn) and it was awesome! My husband on the other hand didn't agree so when we have #2 I've agreed to let him find out but I still want it to be a surprise. We'll see if he'll be able to keep the secret ;)

The BOAT said...

Congrats again...I always said if I had a girl & boy & got preggo again that I would wait. Our name is unisex so we would just have to pick two middle names...but I'm not sure that would ever happen!

Katie said...

Congrats! Team Green is the way to go, you'll love it! Can't wait to hear the names. I'm 15 weeks and have just begun talking about names (and not agreeing on them).

Duchess said...

Congrats! so excited for you and your family :)

bestephens said...

Congrats!!!

I share a similar story...My husband and I found out last October that our little squirt had stopped growing at 6 1/2 weeks. There was never a heartbeat and my doctor deemed it as a missed miscarriage. We went through 3 weeks of waiting...waiting for it to pass naturally, and then waiting again for medicine to induce the passing to work. Well, nothing worked, so I went in for a D&C procedure on November 2, 2011. Everything went well. My doctor suggested that I wait TWO cycles before we tried again. My husband and I had talked about waiting until the Spring to try again.

As I waited for my second cycle to start (January 13), I had a feeling that it wouldn't be coming. I took a test on January 15th because I had been feeling quite dizzy and fatigued. It was positive!!! My husband and I were so excited, but also a little laid back about it because of the loss we had just experienced. I went for my blood tests as well and was told that everything looked great! I have my first ultrasound on Tuesday, February 7th, and I am BEYOND excited!!! We have actually decided to wait and tell our friends and family members until after the first 12 weeks. Not sure why, but as a couple, it seems as if it's the best thing for US and has definitely brought us closer within the past two weeks. It's been hard not to share with family and friends, especially since people keep asking if we are pregnant again, it's as if they know!!!

Best of luck, I loved reading through your experience.

Jeannie said...

How exciting!! Thanks for sharing all the details... September 6th is a great day to be born ::wink wink::

Here's to a Happy and Healthy 9 months mama!!

Congratulations again!

T ♥ said...

What amazing news! Congrats on your newest blessing! :) We just started trying for our second, so I'm hoping we get some good news soon as well!

Kristin said...

I'm just so happy for you :)

The Best of Both Worlds said...

I loved reading this! I am so happy for you! Congrats again! My friend is having her third, due in May and they are not finding out the sex either. They also have a boy and a girl!

Marriage from Scratch said...

What a FUN surprise :)


Congrats!!

~Christina
www.marriagefromscratch.blogspot.com

Erin said...

Jenni I am THRILLED for you and your family!! Lots of prayers and best wishes coming your way for a HEALTHY and HAPPY pregnancy!! oxoxox

Andrea said...

Congratulations Jenni!!

My husband and I experienced a loss last year and it was devastating for the both of us. In October we found out we were expecting... TWINS!

So excited for your little peanut!
Beyond happy for you and your family! Hope you have a wonderful pregnancy!

sarah said...

What a great way to start the new year :)

Wishing you lots of health and happiness during your pregnancy!

p.s. I'm a September baby!...the 14th :)

Amy T said...

September babies are great, especially if you LOVE the Fall - it's a great time to be at home taking care of a newborn! Congratulations!

Jess said...

So happy and excited for you!

Lauren Chudzik said...

Congrats! So happy for you. Be sure to keep checking those cysts. I had them with my first pregnancy and they were causing terrible pain at about 36 weeks (which the doctor's originally thought were kidney stones until an ultrasound revealed that my cyst had grown to the size of a baseball) and the doctor actually had to drain it (with a big needle in my side). I'm preggers again (due in May) and had cysts (again!) this time. Since they caused me trouble last time, my doctor actually opted to surgically remove them (laproscopically) early in my second trimester. I was nervous to have surgery while pregnant, but everything went really well and now I'm so relieved to not worry that they will cause me pain again late in my pregnancy (when you start to run out of room in there!) Feel free to email (lchudzik (at) gmail (dot) com) me if you have any questions, but hopefully this will be a non-issue for you!

Leigh-Ann said...

Congratulations again! And thanks so much for this post! Ive always enjoyed your blog, but I love it the most when theres a baby on the way lol!! :)

Danyiel said...

Super exciting and holy hands full!! Congratulations, so happy that you didn't have to go through months of trying and that you just got it done.

Erin said...

Jenni, I LOVE reading every single detail. I completely understand wanting to tell your family immediately, I would be the same way! Congratulations to all of you!!

amy@agoodlife said...

yayayayayayyayayayay pregnant friend! so excited to be pregnant at the same time again :) what an amazing story with a great ending. congrats again!

booker said...

I'm new here and I would like to say god bless you and your little one!

Erin said...

So exciting!!! I had a recent loss and can totally relate. I'm excited and terrified to try again! Best of luck to you and your family on your new journey!!!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

Congrats again! What a beautiful looking chart - you even had an implantation dip!! I am an FF mama and Braden is my FF baby! Currently charting right now for #2!

amanda said...

I actually think that's really cool. I mean you already have had a boy and a girl and knew about them and were prepared for both. Now you can do the ultimate surprise just one time! How exciting :D :D :D

Kiara Buechler said...

We are currently TTC after a loss in October as well. When we are successful, my hubby wants to wait a long time to tell everyone, but like you I think I am going to want to tell the important people immediately. Especially since my BFFs are practically charting for me, and start asking me to test when I am not even late yet!

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